Dear Sue
The following post is a work of fiction. All names, places, events and dates similar to real-life counterparts are purely coincidential.Dear Sue,Yo gurl, thanks for emailing again. Yes I know you are still gritting your teeth in regret over the latest happening in your life. Specifically - that you ALMOST had a boyfriend. But like they say, "practice makes perfect". There is a book I'd recommend for you to read. It is entitled "I miss him, but my aim's improving". I forgot the name of the author - nevermind, he's probably dead by now (if the author is a "he").I can go on and on about my lessons in love, but I'm only going to reiterate the basic things as I know you have a turbo-charged lifestyle and as your male friend, I have to deliver the hurting truth to you. Coz I know that even if we have words once in a while, we always manage to prop ourselves back up to good terms.So, here goes.My post-mortem of your "lesson". I would really like to blame Karl for this whole thing, but so sorry to say dear friend - it's your fault. You gave him a reason not to pursue you any further. You let out on one of the things girls should never tell a guy they like.I am referring to your rant about guys promising heaven and earth and you keeping them waiting for eons. Then soon after, you realize that in a matter of weeks of not texting you, you learn from others that he has a girlfriend. How could anyone ever send a text message like that to him (of all people) BY MISTAKE? I can't believe you were exchanging texts with Lea about it, and your thumb happened to enter his name in the recipient list. You completely lost your composure when his attitude toward you started turning cold in the days that followed. No matter how sweet you tried to be, he lost the look in his eyes when he drew a picture in his head that his prospective girlfriend didn't know how to risk trusting a guy... in short - you weren't girlfriend material.The moment you find that you couldn't trust a guy who woos you 200%, you are just wasting your time. He is also wasting his time convincing himself that he his girl trusts him, only to be get a front-row seat of your mind in motion.And yeah don't even start with that crap about guys being boleros. If that was true, then your mom would bitch that you are an accident in the backseat. But no, she loves you a lot, and so does your dad. You have a complete happy family so you're just reacting to the pain you feel.Back on-topic, why did you hesitate when he asked you to be his the first time? Your excuse was pathetic - "I'm not in the mood to be in a relationship", but your thoughts were snickering "hahaha he likes me, I'll make him wait a little more to see just how far he'll go". What did you have to do that for if you liked him too? You needed some kind of "initial cash deposit" or something? It's amazing how you have the gall to do this. You needed an ego booster or something? (at the expense of the prospective-most important person in your life of people). This is part of the "rules of engagement" so guys accept this without too much complaining. If I didn't know you and your personality I wouldn't scold you like this, but since you have this type of personality, I'm so sorry.. I have to tell this to your face - he deserves better.Before you complain the next time about guys being players, picture this - a girl will just wait for her nails to dry. Someone will text, someone will ask you out, etc. You don't have to spend a buck (texting back is not counted). All you have to do is smile and set aside sometime for a guy (which he also does, so it cancels out), then make him comfy enough to make him ask you to be his. And voila! You've got yourself a boyfriend. And even if you say "yes", you still have a lot of guys lining up at your door. You can always leave your boyfriend for another guy if you don't want him, so all's fair ^_o.Thing is - guys also know for a fact, that a pretty girl such as yourself is being texted by not just one guy. And a sensible guy can also tell if you're interested in him. If you really want him too but you send the wrong signals.. (such like disinterest or hesitation-type excuses) it's over even before it has even started. Guys don't like girls who raise their ego by holding them up and making them wait with baited breath just for ego's sake. It's a turn-off. It's 2005 already, no longer 1970. So smell the coffee and adjust.I've said too much already.. So I'll end it here. I don't think I can do anything more to ease your pain. Karl is gone. And he will find a girl who trusts him more than you can. And until you have the guts to risk it like his girlfriend did when she said 'yes', keep on lunching with your friends at RP and stay single!! =)Regards,KikoP.S. because of your latest "mishap", I will indefinitely postpone introducing my friend Robert to you, since I believe band-aids are unnecessary at this point in your life.
Playing along
Well I'm game when Jennie tagged me [waving to everyone]1. What are the things you enjoy doing even when there's no one around you?Watching anime torrents, thinking of new concoctions for my website, gaming (console, handheld, PC, arcade), reading (come to think of it I haven't read a book in weeks) I last read "Anyone can do it" - The story of Coffee Republic in the UK, there's a book I'm trying to look for but I've been busy with other shit that I haven't had the time to get to that, there's also learning french, about a phrase a day. It's slow but if I had the money to support myself while studying formally, I'd quit work for a while just for that; composing background music for websites - I'm learning how to use Cakewalk and Arturia Moog (it's a program for authoring/directing synthesized music).2. What lowers your stress/blood pressure/anxiety level?Listening to Super Eurobeat music (yeah, those 12" vinyl things from Italy have digital versions remastered in Japan); texting a random friend in my phonebook; Lying face up on the bed staring at the ceiling; Sitting at a coffee shop enjoying the view; Thinking about the pretty girl I saw on the ride the other day, to name a few (superpowers of being single bwahahaha)3. Tag five friends and ask them to post this:JeyJazzJulesCherieRhiaSheryl (bakit ba, I want 6 people eh)
Filipino Traits that suck. vol. 5
The future is now screwed
I was on my ride home. Seated next to me were a mother and daughter. The daugher looked around pre-teen age. I was texting on my cellphone when the mother was talking about getting the latest phone from Sony Ericsson. My current phone happened to be a dated model of that brand. The mother called my attention and asked me a few questions about my phone. The conversion was in earshot of everyone in sight."Um, excuse me. What model is that phone? It's an Ericsson isn't it?" (in fluent fluent english)"Ah yep. It's a P8 (P800)""But that's not the latest model isn't it?""Oh no it isn't. This is a dated model.""What applications does your phone have?""Oh, not much, the usual stuff a phone has, a couple of games I installed on my own, and some multimedia files.""So you mean it doesn't have a word processor or excel man lang?""Oh no, it doesn't. You have to download and install it. But for this model, it's not a good idea to use for stuff like that.""Ah, so it's not a like pocket PC then?""Um, no it isn't po.""Oh ok, thanks".Then the mother turned to her daugher and said:"See, good thing we didn't buy that model, it has very limited features."THANK GOD I was tired and melancholic during those moments. I kept quiet.What I really wanted to say was something like:"What THE FUCK does the latest model of a phone have to do with having one (a phone)?" or"Only idiots buy cellphones with computer applications. Some things are really meant for desktop or laptops only" or, even"How old are you, you little bitch? Do you really need a celphone at school?"The little girl spoke english and taglish throughout the trip. They weren't talking about anything useful, only phone models and friends. I feel sorry for this kid for she will grow up a helpless spoiled brat with her mother feeding her until she marries.And what's up with the mother's remark? I mean, I know it's an OLD OLD OLD phone, but did she really have to say THAT?! If someone offered you a lighter and oil to burn your phone because it's dated, what would you do??I thought the "family" was the most solid, upright foundation of a society. Now, with well-to-do families like this one, who don't give a shit about manners, even the future is now screwed..
Kiyosaki's success is only his
If there was any book that would really make you seriously question your religion - it would be none other than the "Da Vinci Code". Dan Brown should be cloned.And if there was any book that would make you question the system of working in the world, it would be "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki. After reading this book - it will make you not want to work (as an employee) ever again.But there is distinct difference among the two - the first is more believeable, while the latter is more coincidental.It is really nice to read passages like "you can be rich". Who doesn't? But the thing is, it's the selling point of the book - and THAT only. For one, you can't possibly buy property on credit and sell it for twice the price without even paying the property in full in any country (for those of you who have read the book). That was how he started out in "building his asset column".The book was humor for the educated middle class and MJ for the wealthy. There is something seriously wrong with some of the statements the book says like:Commanding higher pay will only bring more taxes and is not the way to go- He's really off when he said this one. There are two key points here that he should really have stressed. First your per-hour income is higher. Taxes and death are permanent in life so you just have to deal with them like everyone else does. Secondly, and the most important point is controlling your spending habits. In other words - CONTROL YOUR GREED. It's damn damn true that the moment you raise your spending habits commensurate to your standard of living, there you go - you're definitely going to live as a healthy, fat rat for the rest of your life.Seeking a career after college only makes your employer successful- Perhaps this is true also in respect to the person seeking the career. This point really pisses a lot of people off. Why didn't school teach you this? (If you're not a business-degree student, you would be thinking this way initially). I don't know. If this way is absolutely true, then studying would be useless and they should have just enrolled everyone in a business school instead.If there were some things the book should have said (but they wouldn't because the book would have a bad rep if they did), it would be:Not everyone has the same opportunities- Yeah, I mean seriously. Not everyone is born from a wealthy family, and not everyone has the financial education and sound spending-sense, more importantly, the financial capacity to. If you happen to wake up everyday of your life not wondering where your next meal's coming from, then good for you. If you know that it was your hard work that paid off and that you own a business because of your hard work, all the better. YOU DESERVE TO BE RICH.Kiyosaki was basically saying that anyone can be like him. That's bullcrap, given the same amount of time to every living soul of earth. (but again, the book has to sell, so why stress a point like that huh?).Not to worry. Kiyosaki has a couple of saving graces. I will discuss them in another post.But I'll leave it at the idea that this book wasn't for the poor and middle class people to read.. if you read it wrongly and without proper wisdom and ATTITUDE, it will drive you crazy.
Be sure to complain
One weekend ago, I met with old office-friends to head for Batangas for a child christening. As it was the usual, the exchange of old stories with jokes came. One of my married officemates was teasing me towards this girl at my previous place of work.. No.. actually they were teasing me because of a peculiar habit that I had during that time.[ flashback, May 2004 ]Every morning for around 3 months, I used to bring a bottle of mineral water for one of my friends. (I didn't miss a single day that I had time to). We don't talk everyday as I have many things to do (I make sure my day is loaded). It's not like we were going out or anything. It's just one of those habits that grew. I make sure I have a softspot in my head for people who are nice to me. Anyway, enough of all that.[ end of flashback ]The point of the story was - my officemate who was teasing me about that was really stressing the habit. To finally make her stop - I tactlessly pointed out that she was probably silently complaining to her husband as to why he never did anything as thoughtful as that daily gesture conveyed.Man, did I hit the nail on the head. Everyone started teasing her now. I won't be wondering if ever she would now be making "tampo" to her husband. [ They'll probably kill me for saying all this, hehehe ]True enough, as far as courting and pre-marriage stories made its way to my ear, I have never heard of any really uber-sweet thing from them. If ever they did have a sweet moment, it's a given because they're officially a couple (boyfriend and girlfriend).I think that's it - the difference of thoughtfulness when you're in a relationship is the mental reservation that you have priority from your significant other - and that kills the level of appreciation. My officemate stopped teasing after that. And the topic never made its way to the teasing table ever again.Was it really a big deal? I mean, it doesn't take much effort to put a smile on someone's face, even if, for fuck's sake, it's just one day, right? You will never forget the happy sensation you get from doing that small thing..[ Thought this post wouldn't make it with one bit of profanity? ye all guessed wrong! mwahahahaha ]
Fool around won'tcha girl?
It has really been an amusing 2 months. In that span of time, I have 4 friends who have gone to splitsville. I really want to feel sad for those people, but somehow I don't. I feel that when relationships end, the truth finally comes out. No more time is wasted for two people. The one who left finally let out the truth, while the one who got left behind has his/her time to their own and can spend it on more worthwhile things.Anyway, this week, a girl friend was texting me. She was in paranoia because her guy is texting this new girl he met through a common friend. And that they are planning to meet.Now hold on a moment. Don't you all go calling the guy an infidel. The girlfriend (my friend) is aware of all of this. Secondly....secondly, my friend (if ever her guy will leave her for this new girl) deserves it. Why??Because she fooled around with a guy before. To add insult to injury, the boyfriend found out about it when the affair was almost ending. But he endured it. Because of this act of stupidity of the boyfriend, I have high respect for him. But despite all that, here's fate, playing a game and turning the tables on my friend girl (If I was the guy, I would have left her). He's definitely solid bf material and my friend is well... she's got a lot of crying and nail polishing to do.Now that this is all in her face, she can't do shit because her boyfriend is holding all the cards. She can't rat out to him because she fooled around before and he forgave her. Now, if my hunch is right (Fuck I hope I'm wrong), he'll break up with her for this girl. It's nothing short of sweet sweet KARMA.and to shove a point up my friend - I reminded her of what love is -- making someone happy even if it means you not being part of it. She was dumbfounded (almost to tears), but I consoled her afterwards. I don't know.. I don't really feel sorry for her at this instance.So now, I'm knocking on a large block of wood. :D
