The need to adapt
[ side story - one evening in Manila time ]One of the ghosts of my past came to me one night in a dream. She (the ghost) was threatening me with - "Don't you have any plans of having a girlfriend? You're not getting any younger".
At hearing this I thought to myself -- "Since when did a guy worry about his age when the question of a relationship came up?". I'm pretty sure that reason did shut her up. I was actually going to respond: "That's something you should tell to a girl".
And with that, the banshee was sealed away, not to come back for another hundred years or so.
[ end of side story ]
Actually there is something even heavier than that reasoning. Just recently there have been a number of blog posts the past week about a similar topic (I won't mention it anymore), and this topic has some sort of connection with how I'm dealing with all this shit.
Well what I have to say is: back in the day, whenever I ask parents of how things where in the past, life was much easier -- they were getting married (and impregnated) at an early age average. They were like.. 18 to 21 at least. And that was around mid 70's to early 80's. Indeed, times were very easy. Fast forward 2006 - now it's nowhere near that state of ease in life's pressures. With this change - our people's values and habits should also change accordingly.
And one of these changes we should adopt to is in our thinking that people should still get married before 30. I guess it's really difficult to scrape this off our minds since it has been deeply rooted. But I'm sure there is wisdom in adapting to the changes of the times. I know people past their 30's who are married but they voluntarily decided not to have children (and they have been married for 5 years and still decided not to have offspring). That's an example of the kind of adjustment that we have to nail into our heads. It all boils down to one thing "we don't have a good shot like our parents did. And insisting that a shot is good when it isn't will spell misery for you and your future children" (well, if we aren't living miserably already).
It's pretty simple reasoning, that I wonder why people just don't get it. We make our own problems so people really shouldn't be complaining whenever they know they don't have the capacity to do something (like.. get married and raise a family) yet they do so out of social obligation or tradition.
Screw that all, really.. times have changed, and so should we all..
posted by Urban Warrior @ 6:00 AM
1 Comments:
it's not all heart nowadays....one has to use his/her brains when it comes to settling down. if one doesn't have the financial capability to sustain a family, then, they shouldn't just rush into marriage. kawawa naman ang mga magiging anak nila!
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